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Relationship Success Strategies - The 12 Steps to Creating Divorce-Proof Marriages

With the divorce rate rising every year, we have to consciously take steps to divorce-proof our marriages. Here are some tips on how you can do that.

First of all, Know yourself, Engage yourself and Marry yourself - How do you do this? Well, first you need to define your Life Purpose. Your Life Purpose is defined by your values and priorities. Once you identify them, you can live by them and create your Life Vision and Life Mission Statement. Through these you will develop a Legacy that will continue to live forever.

The next step is to Create a Balanced Lifestyle - This is done by defining and setting boundaries - personal boundaries, boundaries with the people around you and boundaries in your environment. By setting boundaries you begin to eliminate energy drains. Then you create a proactive self maintenance program and take the time to evaluate and inventory your lifestyle weekly.

It is vital that you surround yourself with Supportive Networks and Communities - Begin by seeking out like-minded and like-valued people. Find people around you with whom you can create accountability agreements so you can keep each other on track. Do your best to avoid negative situations, people and environments.

It’s really important to Know your Requirements and Needs - You have to define your “Deal Makers” and “Deal Breakers” - these are the experiences that you absolutely must have or absolutely cannot have in the relationship. Learn how to make direct requests to get your needs met. And above all, always be true to yourself.

Take your work in life seriously, but take life lightly - Every day practice being flexible, fluid and accepting. Avoid trying to “push the river” - instead, go with the flow whenever possible. Express your passion in life with the utmost of passion

Understand the healthy romantic relationship developmental process - Create the criteria you seek for your Life Partner. Then develop “screening” and “testing” strategies so you’ll know if the person you have met fits the bill. Use your support system whenever possible for feedback and input.

Define your personal Spirituality - Discover and walk your Spiritual Path. Practice daily acts to activate your “Highest Self” and instead of pushing the boulder up the hill, learn to accept life on life’s terms.

Be perfectly imperfect - know your personal character challenges and work to strengthen those areas. Accept all of your errors, mis-takes and failures instead of ruminating on them. Practice non-judgment of yourself and all others.

Live from Abundance - practice daily acts of “random kindness”. You’ll be surprised how good that makes you feel. Develop a “Pay it Forward” system in your life. Create an affirming, fear-less inner dialogue.

Be an Excellent Communicator - as often as possible practice active listening. Commit to always creating a “Win-Win” outcome with others. Learn to process your emotions, conflicts and disagreements in a healthy way.

Get out of your comfort zone - learn to accept all your uncomfortable feelings and emotions. Deliberately practice daily acts of new behavior. Celebrate discomfort as a part of healthy growth and development.

Consciously Breathe and Smile - have some fun! Learn to be silly. Develop breathing exercises to enhance your Mind, Body, Heart and Soul. Take to heart the saying “Fake it ’til you make it” - and simply smile until you are happy.